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I refer of course to my own experiences with my Dad but may be different for others.
Illness changes the dynamics of your relationship almost to parent/child status. I think in a situation where somebody has lived with a sick partner for a long time a lot of their grieving is done even before death.I didn't consider this too much at the time but I did indeed become a full time mother to his ds (who was 3 when I met him).It's something that can benefit everyone of course, but you need to be clear of your role within the 'family' and manage expectations. I am not the GF of a widower but the DP of a friend is a widower and they have been together a long time; also I know of two families where v sadly the mum has died with pre-teen / teen children.I am a bit sad about that but our life together is so happy that I have come to terms with it. We had not planned to see each other as he had these things going on, so I had set myself up for him to be a little melancholy and I gave him space. He was with my Mum for 40 years, she had cancer and died a year after diagnosis.I understand that my Dad is very reflective, often, about my Mum and cries quite a bit and that my step-mother is very patient and understanding about this.
My bf talks about the moment he realised the grief had left him.