My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 months
Tactics are the means deployed to gain an objective. Strategy is planning, positioning, and decision-making that shape what tactics are used and when.While it might seem like a bold tactic to try and level up your relationship by splashing for a blowout Valentine’s day, it’s not a sound strategy. Unless you’re absolutely certain the relationship is ready for it, a shock and awe date on Valentine’s day is likely to backfire because there’s already considerable pressure on both sides to present a Goldilocks gesture – not too eager/intense, not too casual.
Whatever the case, when Valentine’s becomes an excuse to do something novel and fun it’s no longer about the appropriateness of the gesture, but simply having a memorable, top-tier date night.As dating and relationship coach Jonathan Bennett points out, “Valentine’s Day is still very important in current dating culture.Even though it’s pretty much a Hallmark holiday (e.g., the Catholic church took the day off its liturgical calendar), many men and women feel great pressure to have a date or be in a relationship on February 14th.”That pressure can be especially intense if you’re dating or in a new relationship and don’t feel super comfortable or secure yet. In David’s case let’s assume the following: Instead of trying to find some mythical Goldilocks gesture (not too big but not too small), we’ve enlisted the help of relationship experts to help you side-step the issue altogether. “The best course of action is to look at the investment you’ve both made in the relationship and apply that to your Valentine’s Day gift choices,” says relationship coach Jonathan.Today, it's easy to make dinner at someone's house or go to a local show.It's hard to overdo dinner or a show because it is about two people spending time together as opposed to one person getting an over- or under- expensive gift from someone.”That is just such damn good advice.
In this, it is much easier to plan something without overdoing it.